The Secret to Looking Feminine Without Feeling Overexposed

I remember having a spirited argument about what was acceptable for a christian woman. I was in my early twenties, and just started going to my local church and was on my feminine journey

At the time, the unspoken rule was to wear no makeup, loose fitted tunic and graphic tees and soggy jeans 😬

And about this time, a group of young women showed up - all glammed up with makeup and cute dresses… and of course, captured the attention of the guys…

Which was why the other ladies were having this spirited discussion 

But the question was how do we as Christian women dress more feminine without feeling too revealing or uncomfortable?

If you grew up in the church, you probably faced the same dilemma: we want to honor God but love dressing up and you struggle with that fine line between modesty and frumpy.

And to be honest, modest fashion often feels matronly, frumpy and outdated.

But at Tiana Bay, we believe that modesty shouldn’t mean invisibility, and femininity doesn’t require revealing it all.

So, in this post, we’re exposing the secret to looking feminine without feeling overexposed—and why classy mini dresses like the ones we selected and design at Tiana Bay are offering a new standard for christian women’s clothing .

Now, on face value, you can see where the command to dress modest comes up. But if you read closely, you’ll notice that it doesn’t just stop at clothes, this list also includes fancy hairstyle, expensive jewelry.

I’d go so far to say, other modern day examples would be makeup, shoes, wallets, handbags, cars, etc

And if you study these verses in its entirety, you start to see a different example. From a biblical standpoint, when we use our outward appearance to draw attention to us in a way that validates us, that’s not dressing modestly.

And so when back to the question, should Christians dress modestly - yes.

But this does not mean that you’re dressing in a head covering and maxi dresses. But rather this means putting your worth in who God calls us to be rather than what our external appearance looks like.

For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do

As a church, we should not get hung up on about whether or not the bible calls women to a particular dress code.

That’s not christian living, that’s legalism.

I’ve scrolled through so many comment sections, reading Christians going back and forth with each other about what dressing modestly is and isn’t.

That’s not important. Our relationship with God is more important than anything else.

Now, this does not mean that you can dress any way you want. We should use wisdom.

There’s also an interesting note, the Greek word for modesty is aidós, and it entails reflecting a humble attitude of yourself and a recognition of one's place before God and others - emphasizing the importance of maintaining a respectful and humble disposition

It’s more than just outward appearance but rather a lifestyle that thinks of oneself less - and having a mind that’s in Christ Jesus. Our focus when it comes to our style should be to honor God and that comes by having a relationship with Him through Christ Jesus.

I also want to add that beauty isn’t a bad thing. The scripture is filled with women who was described as beautiful. Most notably, Sarai (Abraham’s wife) and Esther who beautified herself before she presented herself to the king.

So, you shouldn’t have to choose between being modest or feminine. And when done correctly, modesty enhances your femininity. 

Before we dive deep, I want to add this disclaimer

If the Lord placed it on your heart to dress modestly, please do so accordingly. The purpose of this blog post isn’t to indict people for dressing modestly but to also help women who do not feel called to dress modesty do so comfortably.

If that’s the conviction that God has placed on your heart, please continue on in what God has called you to do.

Now back to the blog post -

Often times, when Christian women talk about dressing more modest, they’re often using a couple familiar bible verses to support their claim

Most familiar, 1 Timothy 2:9 and 1 Peter 3:3-5 are often used.

'And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes . For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.'

1 Timothy 2:9-10 NLT

'Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. '

Now, on face value, you can see where the command to dress modest comes up. But if you read closely, you’ll notice that it doesn’t just stop at clothes, this list also includes fancy hairstyle, expensive jewelry.

I’d go so far to say, other modern day examples would be makeup, shoes, wallets, handbags, cars, etc

And if you study these verses in its entirety, you start to see a different example. From a biblical standpoint, when we use our outward appearance to draw attention to us in a way that validates us, that’s not dressing modestly.

And so when back to the question, should Christians dress modestly - yes.

But this does not mean that you’re dressing in a head covering and maxi dresses. But rather this means putting your worth in who God calls us to be rather than what our external appearance looks like.

For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do

As a church, we should not get hung up on about whether or not the bible calls women to a particular dress code.

That’s not christian living, that’s legalism.

I’ve scrolled through so many comment sections, reading Christians going back and forth with each other about what dressing modestly is and isn’t.

That’s not important. Our relationship with God is more important than anything else.

Now, this does not mean that you can dress any way you want. We should use wisdom.

There’s also an interesting note, the Greek word for modesty is aidós, and it entails reflecting a humble attitude of yourself and a recognition of one's place before God and others - emphasizing the importance of maintaining a respectful and humble disposition

As a christian women’s clothing brand that specializes in feminine fashion, we approach modesty a little differently.

Especially for the christian girlies who love Jesus and love dressing up - we want you to be seen as soft, elegant and beautiful.

And not only that, being a part of our brand, we’re also about promoting feminine content that speaks God’s truth.

We do not believe that you have an inner goddess waiting to be awakened by your femininity.

We believe that you are a sinner saved by grace who needs a savior. And because Jesus came to earth to die for you and me, and rose again, we have life in Him.

Femininity doesn’t save you, Jesus does.

Reclaiming Your Femininity Through Fashion

We started this brand to remind you that are fearfully and wonderfully made by God for this moment.

The world doesn’t get to define what femininity or modesty looks like. God does.

God made you on purpose. He had a divine plan for you.

And that’s why we are obsessed with femininity and celebrate it because God created it for a beautiful purpose

And we celebrate that through clothes - the more feminine the better ❤️💖 because we want the clothes to help you to love your body again.