Christian Femininity

Why Femininity Matters More Than Ever A comment on one of my videos stopped me in my tracks recently. I posted a video showcasing one of our styles, and the comment asked, Why the focus on femininity? Why the emphasis on it? I had to sit with that for a while. Because I understood the skepticism. There's a version of the femininity conversation that feels performative. The aesthetic. The expensive taste. The fixation on men and a lifestyle.  And then adding a layer of dark spirituality - feminine energy, how to awaken it, manifestation. And if you're a Christian, what seemed good and light has a complicated perspective.  So I understand why someone would raise an eyebrow. But when I responded to that comment, I shared the real reason we're obsessed with femininity. And it starts with my own story. Growing up, I was insecure about my womanhood. I believed my worth was tied to what I produced — what I achieved, what I could show for myself. It was only after becoming a Christian, after God began to reveal that my femininity was never the problem, that I started to see clearly. The world's contortion of femininity and masculinity — that didn't catch God off guard. None of it surprised him. But what I really wanted to drive home is this: femininity matters now more than ever. And here's why. For the sake of this conversation, let me define what I mean by femininity. I'm talking about the attributes, talents, and skills particular to womanhood — the things a woman possesses that are distinct, that are hers. This matters because it reveals God's intentionality from the very beginning. Genesis 1:27 tells us God created Adam and Eve in his likeness. The qualities we sometimes struggle with as women — the ones that make us feel inadequate, vulnerable, too soft — were not accidents. They were designed. Purposefully, by our Father. Not to make us a liability. To make us necessary. When we look further into Genesis, we see that Adam was formed from dust and called to work the land. God looked at him and said: It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper for him. He didn't create another man. When God created Eve, he formed her from Adam's rib and brought her to him. That imagery gives hint to the importance of womanhood.  The bible uses the word, helper, which does not mean a subservant. Rather it carries the meaning of having strength, having skill, possessing something complementary that the other person does not have. But here's  what took my breath away. That same word, helper,  is used elsewhere in Scripture to describe God's relationship with Israel. And used in the New Testament to describe the  Holy Spirit. Let that land for a second. A woman is not helpless or defenseless, but she was created on purpose with gifts and talents unique to her - orchestrated by the Lord That's not a small thing. That's everything. When I embraced my womanhood, Scripture opened up to me in ways it hadn't before. I started seeing Jesus differently — more richly, more personally. The story that always gets me is the woman at the well. John 4. I've heard it preached a hundred different ways. She's called immoral, obstinate, a cautionary tale. But when you read it as a woman, you see something else entirely. She comes at high noon — seeking isolation. She knew no one would be at the well.   She wasn't being practical. She was trying to hide, because that's all she knew. How to be invisible And Jesus, the bible tells us, came to the well to meet her.  He asks her for water. And by doing so, he offers a water much greater than anything she could experience. WHat's so beautiful is that Jesus sees this woman fully...  I think it's the same way Jesus saw  Nathaniel and said, I saw you under the fig tree. It was a moment of being truly known, and fully loved. And in that moment, that woman felt something. She goes from being invisible to telling the city about the man who sees her.  And the bible tells us that the whole city comes to Jesus because of her testimony. That's what happens when a woman knows she is loved. This Is Why We Do What We Do Femininity matters to us because you matter. Not as a concept. Not as an aesthetic. As a woman, made on purpose, for this moment. Our brand exists to remind you of that. If you're struggling with your womanhood — if some part of you resents being a woman, feels lesser for it, wishes you were built differently — I want you to hear this: God loved you enough to make you exactly this way. You bear his image. Whether you're soft or strong, whether you fit the mold or don't, you are loved by Jesus. That's the whole thing. That's why femininity matters.

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Reclaiming Femininity: Being a Feminine Women in a Masculine-Praising Society As women, the message has been clear. We are the “superwoman” generation. We were told over and over that we were as good as boys. That we can do anything a boy can do, in fact, we were told that we can do anything a boy can do, better.  Songs and movies boast of women's independence, resilience and pride in not having to have to depend on men.  And while all these messages seemed encouraging, the subtext was that we prove our worth when we are compete and excel with men.  What made us difference was no longer celebrated but dismissed. Women were praised when they were providers and protectors, dismissed as solely nurturers. Or worse, advise that she could do it all. We were secretly being told that if we did not provide and protect of our lives - if we did not provide for ourselves - we were worthless, weak and dependent on men.  After all, if we weren’t as good as boys, we just weren’t good enough. And thereby creating a more masculine group of women.  Women who struggle to embrace and reclaim their femininity, and resting in it.  Reclaiming femininity doesn't mean ignoring the masculine expression that you possess.  Rather, it means to recognize when we’re functioning in a capacity that is contrary to our natural expression, why we are in that state, and step back into our feminine state.  Biological men are naturally masculine, and therefore, tend to be providers and protectors. Whereas, biological women are naturally feminine by design, and tend to be nurturers and caregivers.  And thereby men and women are purposefully complimentary. However, when we build a society that believes that men and women are interchangeable, we lose the beauty of the complementary nature of this and we force each person to function in a capacity that is contrary to their natural expression. All that being said, there are seasons in life when women will step into the providers/protector role, and men can step into the nurturer and caregiver role. But when they do so, it's likely because there is no alternative. They're in survival mode.  We see this case in relationships when one spouse loses a job/gets sick/removed from the house for any reason, the other spouse will step into the dominant role, ie the masculine role. So, when a women is operating more masculine role - she is protecting herself and likely in a survival mode. And she can function at that state for awhile. But if she continues to function, she may find herself burdened, angry and resentful.  Exhausted. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Desiring to rest and relinquish her control to someone who is worthy to handle that control but in that role, she attracts people around her who gravitate towards that kind of environment. Other women who are in survival mode, frustrated and defeated by life but incapable of seeing a way out. And feminine men who have grown complacent with survival mode.  So what to do? Well, in order for us to embrace our femininity and the transformative power of it, we first need to accept ourselves fully as woman. Resting in our Femininity Starts With The Need of a Savior Embracing your femininity starts by first realizing that who we are - flaws and all - and accepting that.. This is harder said than done, because we’ve all had moments in our lives when we were told that we weren’t good enough. We may have experienced neglect or abuse that damaged our psyche, pushed us in positions to constantly protect ourselves and therefore pushed us to be more masculine.  And a huge part of being feminine is the ability to be soft and vulnerable. But it doesn't stop there, it's also taking things one step further and dealing with our brokenness, traumas, hurts, and missed expectations.  And rather than read affirmations, there’s a spiritual truth we need to grasp. That there is something inherently wrong with us. We were created for a loving relationship with God, and our sin nature has kept us from so. And that sin nature is that persistently stubborn stain we’ve been desperately trying to blot out.  Rather than fix it ourselves, we need to look to God. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life” John 3:16 “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.” 1 John 3:16 Friends, it is this love that we use as the basis for our self-acceptance. The love demonstrated by Christ when He died for our sins. Our brokenness, hurt and trauma.  And once we accept His love, we move differently.   This self-acceptance helps you drop societal pressures and embrace your femininity. It helps you overcome limiting beliefs and insecurities. "Only when you fully grasp that you were made on purpose for a purpose by a loving God, can you fully embrace your feminine identity." And as you accept this truth, your relationships, career, and well-being will improve.  The true power of self-acceptance is about loving what Jesus has done for you and choosing to praise Him because of His love and sacrifice and embracing the spiritual healing that comes from Him.  One of the biggest critiques we hear from women in our community is that when it comes to being feminine, we just do not feeling safe to do so. We do not feel safe trusting men solely to protect and provide for us.  And this is completely understandably. In Genesis, when God created man and women, masculine and feminine beings, that was before sin entered. When everything was perfect.  It's no longer the case. So as Christian women, embracing our femininity, we need to first turn to Christ. We need to give him our hurts and pains and worries and cares, knowing that He loves us and cares for us “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peters 5:7 And the beauty about this is that rather than transferring this expectation to a man, we place it in God’s hands. And when we do this, we create a different atmosphere. We’re not bogged down with the cares, worries and frustrations of this world. We’re reminded that we are loved and in His hands. We’re reminded that we are cared for and protected, and whatever happens, God is still in control. We’re able to be soft because we transferred the burden of being the protector and provider back to God.  And as we walk with God, we learn to trust Him more and more because He is faithful and just. We don’t have to be the ones to do everything, we learn to rest. Femininity and Vulnerability Society often portrays vulnerability as a weakness, something to be avoided. However, it is through vulnerability that we truly connect with others and experience deep, meaningful connections. Femininity encourages us to embrace vulnerability and allows us to tap into our emotional depths. It is through vulnerability that we discover ourselves and find the courage to express our true emotions and desires. As well as foster an environment in which others can do the same. And this is scary, and so often we find ourselves stepping into our masculinity to protect ourselves from being vulnerable and soft.  We’d rather take control, portray strength and toughness because we’re afraid to feel pain or experience it again. But we need to remember that vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s a requirement of life. And by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we open up the doors to growth and personal development.  We learn to trust ourselves and others, and find strength in our ability to navigate through life's challenges with grace and resilience. And we learn to cultivate empathy, forge deeper connections, and live a more fulfilling life. So dare to embrace your femininity and vulnerability, and experience the transformative power it brings. Application: How to Create the Feminine Lifestyle We’ve already talked about how important it is for a woman to be feminine, so let’s talk about how one is to do so.  Here are some daily activities that will help you become more feminine. Start your day spending time in God’s word, meditating on the bible and basking in His love and presence. Put on your armor of love, reminding yourself that you were created on purpose for a purpose Practice a form of self-care (enjoying a healthy breakfast, going for a walk, exercising in the morning) Spend time pampering yourself / dress up  During your workday, take time to  Journaling to explore your emotions and process them - not to judge how you’re feeling but to become aware of what your emotions are saying Meditation to calm the mind and remember what the scriptures you head in the afternoon Spend time with your loved ones  Sensual self-care, such as indulging in a luxurious bath to exercising your body, eating a healthy diet Prioritizes peace, patience and positivity by setting firm  boundaries and enforcing them Guard your heart by protecting what type of content you consume. Seeks Godly guidance and wisdom  Enjoy the little moments of life Creativity through art, music, or dance to unleash your feminine creativity These self-care practices will help you find balance as you tap into your femininity.

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So, I came across a Reddit post asking about the divine femininity in Christianity. And the poster was asking about why this wasn’t mentioned more. The poster mentioned that the divine feminine offers a more balanced approach to God, allowing God to be more intimate and immanent.  And so, I wanted to write on this topic because it’s important to discuss.  Being a christian feminine woman, there is a lot of talk about divine femininity and using femininity to heal ourselves. But here’s the thing, if you are a Christian, there is no divine femininity in Christianity.  'So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” 'Genesis 1:26-27 I bolded, He Created Them to draw emphasis on this very idea. God created men and woman. I’ve also written another post about the demonic aspect to the whole divine feminine that you can read here. “You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by Your will they were created and have their being.” Revelations 4:11 I love this verse in Revelations because it repeats this beautiful statement that we see in Genesis. God is the creator of all things - and by His will they were created and have their being - their purpose.  What about Virgin Mary? Would she be considered a divine feminine being? No. Mary was created by God for a beautiful purpose. Back in Luke, the angel Gabriel appears to Mary to tell her that she will have a son, and she is to call him Jesus. Mary rejoices and responds back with this beautiful poem  'And Mary said: “My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me— holy is his name. His mercy extends to those who fear him, from generation to generation. He has performed mighty deeds with his arm; he has scattered those who are proud in their inmost thoughts. He has brought down rulers from their thrones but has lifted up the humble. He has filled the hungry with good things but has sent the rich away empty. He has helped his servant Israel, remembering to be merciful to Abraham and his descendants forever, just as he promised our ancestors.” 'Luke 1:46-55 Did you catch the opening statement, how she expresses her gratitude, her spirit rejoices in God, her savior.  Mary viewed herself as a sinner, needing to be saved and not as a divine entity. Humans made her that.  God created Mary to give birth to Jesus. And she knew that and was praising God for that. And this beauty of God’s grace. It was that through Eve’s disobedience, that the entire human race was cursed - but through Mary’s obedience, the human race had another chance of redemption.  And because of what Jesus did on the cross, we can have a close relationship with God, being connected to our creator and father and having a purpose for our life.  So, to answer the original reddit’s post, God does not need a divine feminine entity to create an intimate connection with us. We need to accept Jesus's work on the cross to entire that finish relationship. You see, sin separates us from God. God is all perfect, completely worthy and holy, never making a mistake. And the bible mentions so many instances when God's chosen people get a glimpse of God's holiness, his sinlessness, they can barely stand or look.  But because of God's love for us, He sent His son Jesus to die for us  And when Jesus died for our sins, he paid the ultimate price so that we can have a relationship with God. We can be connected to our loving Father like we should have had in the garden because the sin that separates us is no longer between us but rather crucified with Jesus. We do not need any other mediators but Jesus. Ok, that’s all for today, if you enjoy more of our christian content, I'd consider you look into John (the Gospel) and Romans as starting places.  And if you're looking for wholesome, Christian feminine content, join our newsletter We’re an online clothing brand that focuses on feminine clothes but also promoting a God-given femininity.  We’re not making any idols but celebrating God through fashion.

We define what biblical femininity is along with providing biblical examples of femininity. Nothing new-agey but just the Word of God

So can the Christian woman be a soft girl? Should a Christian woman pursue the soft girl life... As a black christian woman and an active soft woman, I think there is an interesting dance on how we balance the two but it's possible with these 4 points.  But before we get started, let's define what is the soft girl life. A soft life is defined as a a lifestyle of comfort and relaxation with minimal challenges or stress, which is the opposite extreme of the hustle culture. And as Christians, we have to first remember that our God did not guarantee a life of comfort. Quite the opposite. “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 And if you’ve lived long enough, you know that some troubles you cannot escape. But here’s the beauty of that statement, that Jesus promised that we won’t face those troubles alone. In fact, in John 17, there’s a beautiful prayer that Jesus prays over us.  Yes, Us. And let’s not forget the most beautiful promise that He will never leave us nor forsake us and He is with us always,  So while we will not have a life of comfort and relaxation absolutely avoidant of stress and challenges, there are other ways we can live out a soft life. Appearance. When you think about being a soft girl. What comes to mind? What does she look like, what does she sound like, dress like or even smell like? I have a feeling we have a few images in mind of women who are beautiful, adorned in expensive jewelry and brand name clothing. And as Christian woman, there is nothing wrong with putting effort into our appearance, dressing nicely, maintaining good hygiene and being physically active. Let me make this absolutely clear, and loud enough for all you in the back, there is nothing wrong with wanting to look pretty, soft and feminine. Especially if you’re single or even if you’re married or at any stage. There’s a reason why God made men visual.  And as an owner of a fashion brand, we're all for dressing your best and feeling good. We want you to see yourself as the woman you've always dreamed of and that's why our still is modern elegance, not-branded but still classy.   The trap is when what our outer appearance becomes our idol. When we depend on the brands we wear to speak for us rather than remembering that we were bought with a price.  So, look good but let's not be like the pharisees that were beautiful on the outside but empty on the inside.    Soft Girl Self-Care So there’s this beautiful story about Elijah in the bible. Elijah just performed this miraculous feat, and Jezebel heard about it, and threatens Elijah. And Elijah, being the man of God that he is, ran.  He finds a bush and falls asleep. An angel provides him with a meal before he is lead to the mountain of God. And I think that’s a beautiful illustration of how important self-care is. Elijah had performed a miracle but was probably exhausted so he reacted emotionally which was why he ran. And here we're watching God meet the physical needs first - rest, eat, etc, - while leading Elijah back to Him for the ultimate healing. And that’s why I’m so for the self-care aspect. Softies, we need to be praying and spending time with the Lord, journaling, working out and eating well.  I'll be the first to say that I struggle with this part, as there's always something to do but we need to rest in the Lord.  And this is where I would go one step forward, we can actively avoid stress and worry because we know the One who holds everything in His hand. And this ties in to boundaries. We should do everything we can to protect the joy that comes from being in relationship with Jesus. And we should fight against anything that tries to rid us of our joy, and that’s usually in the form of anxiety or worry. Some of my favorite verses on this includes -  Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7  Casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully]. 1 Peter 5:7 Should we avoid toxic people? Yes, the bible talks about avoiding bad characters in proverbs. But again, there will be times we will have challenging people in our lives. And as Christians, we need to have discernment in those moments because we can't try to ignore those relationships because we want a comfortable life. It's about what God has for us to do. And his plans and purposes are always better than ours.  Which this point brings me to my final point. We are told to pick up our crosses daily, dying to ourselves each day which does make it challenging to live out a soft life.  Because sometimes God may be calling us to something different. Something greater. So, yes, you can pursue this soft life but keep in mind that your Lord and Savior may have something better than that in store for you which is far more rewarding than any soft life. So those are my tips. I hope that helps you. Let me know what your tip takeaways are. If I left something out, drop in the comments. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thanks. Bye

So, I’ve got a confession to make. I hate terms like feminine energy or urge, but one that I’ve despised is Divine Femininity. And this is coming from a black Christian soft girl perspective. When I first heard this term, I was on TIKTOK, and I felt like someone was trying to sell a course - kind of like the Twin Flame vibe.  But upon further research, I started to see the root of all this nonsense. And if you’re like me, a Christian who loves the soft girl life, you’ll see why we can’t stand behind this either. The concept of divine feminine refers to the energy that exists within us and without us. According to tinyrituals.co, this divine feminine energy that exists within and without us is softer, nurturing, intuitive, and empowering.  And at first, it sounds spiritual - at least on the surface.  But as Christians, we know that is not true. The Bible describes the human heart as desperately evil and wicked. It’s a dark, void and empty pit. And when I read that verse, the image that comes to mind is Genesis 1.  Before God spoke, the earth was formless and void, empty and dark. It wasn’t until God said, “let there be light” and God saw there was light and God saw that the light was good (pleasing, useful) and [e]He affirmed and sustained it; and God separated the light [distinguishing it] from the dark. Now, don’t miss that. Apart from God, there is nothing good. There is just confusion and emptiness, void of any meaning. It wasn’t until God spoke, and there was light.  But if we go back to that original definition, there is this notion that this divine femininity is trying to make a claim that there is a feminine higher power. In fact, According to Gnostic texts, which is where this ideology originates from,  Sophia was the right hand of God and creator of the world, and Mary Magdalene was Jesus' favorite apostle, and probably his wife, then Pope Gregory decided to remake her into a prostitute. Again, that’s just not true. First, we know that it was Jesus who is seated at the right hand of God and it was Jesus who was there at the beginning of time. In fact, John opens up the gospel with this very statement.  1 In the beginning [before all time] was the Word ([a]Christ), and the Word was with God, and [b]the Word was God Himself. He was [continually existing] in the beginning [co-eternally] with God. All things were made and came into existence through Him; and without Him not even one thing was made that has come into being. In Him was life [and the power to bestow life], and the life was the Light of men. The Light shines on in the [c]darkness, and the darkness did not understand it or overpower it or appropriate it or absorb it [and is unreceptive to it]. I chose the Amplified Bible Version because it really illustrates a powerful point that before anything was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  Jesus existed in the beginning with God. All things were made and came into existence through Him, and without Him not even one thing was made that has come into being. Remember the definition of divine femininity, well, if you read a little closer, we’re seeing an image of a feminine deity that exists to provide life - ie she is the nurture, softer, and essentially giving life. Now, looking over these two verses directly opposing the concept of divine femininity. Jesus is our source of life, not femininity or masculinity.  “But I do feel like I’m more masculine. Is it wrong to say that I’m operating in my masculine energy?” Well, I’d say that depends. In Genesis 5:2, we’re told that God created both male and female and blessed them and called them “human.” So femininity nad masculinity are both made by God but not to be worshiped, but rather to fulfill God’s purpose which was to go forth and multiply and fill the earth. God created men and women as complementary, but it’s sin that has taken what God has made and corrupted it. So, I’d say that while it’s ok to want to be more feminine and less masculine, we need to look at things in the proper context. We first need to address the sin aspect and remember the gospel message.  Continuing John 1, it reads 9 There it was—the true Light [the genuine, perfect, steadfast Light] which, coming into the world, enlightens everyone. He (Christ) was in the world, and though the world was made through Him, the world did not recognize Him. He came to that which was His own [that which belonged to Him—His world, His creation, His possession], and those who were His own [people—the Jewish nation] did not receive and welcome Him. But to as many as did receive and welcome Him, He gave the right [the authority, the privilege] to become children of God, that is, to those who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely on) His name— who were born, not of blood [natural conception], nor of the will of the flesh [physical impulse], nor of the will of man [that of a natural father], but of God [that is, a divine and supernatural birth—they are born of God—spiritually transformed, renewed, sanctified]. Jesus came to restore what was lost in the garden of Eden.  Our relationship with God.  And that’s the beautiful thing about being a Christian, is the fact that as broken, lost and rejected you feel - and rightfully so, God loved us so much that He sent His son to die for our sin. We need to ask ourselves what is the condition of our heart. As Christians, have we fully repented and accepted Jesus as our Lord and Savior Are we praying regularly and prioritizing our relationship with Jesus over our soft life goals? Do we trust Jesus fully with our dreams, hopes, worries, and anxiety? Again, it’s ok to want to be more feminine, but we just can’t prioritize our femininity over our relationship with God.  Anyhoo, that’s enough from me. Let me know your thoughts.