How Can I Be in My Feminine Energy on a Date?

As women, it is so easy to fall into the habit of taking control—planning every detail, leading the conversation, and putting pressure on ourselves to be “perfect.” 

But what if the secret to standing out on a date is less about doing and more about *being*? 

When you’re tapped into your femininity, there’s this presence that will draw people in., So, how do you embrace that softer, more relaxed side of yourself in a world that encourages us to be tough and strong - like our male counterparts?

Letting Go of Control

Resting in your femininity means releasing the need to control every moment. 

You don’t have to plan every word or overanalyze every interaction. Let the conversation unfold naturally. By relaxing and letting the other person take the lead, you give yourself the space to *receive*

Now, letting your date take the lead does not mean letting him have his way with you. 

And as Christians, this should be easier said than done, because we know that it’s not on us - rather we put our faith and trust in Christ Jesus. 

We know that He is in control, and we can rest in that truth and therefore do not go about worrying about whether things will or won’t work out.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

Being Present

Being present is the best way to connect deeply. Instead of letting your mind race with thoughts about what might happen next, focus on the sensations around you. 

How does your dress feel against your skin? What does your drink taste like? When you're fully in the moment, you're more in tune with your femininity, making you more radiant and attractive.

Embrace and Welcome Vulnerability

And this is the hardest one yet. Growing up, we’re told  -as women - to not be women.

Not to be soft, delicate or vulnerable. So it’s no surprise that when it comes to relationships, we struggle with the vulnerability aspect. 

But as a feminine women, our goal should be to embrace and welcome vulnerability.

It’s okay to be open about your feelings and desires—whether that’s laughing when something funny happens or showing a softer side when discussing something meaningful. 

You do not need to shield off your feelings as a means to protect yourself. 

Men are naturally drawn to women who aren’t afraid to be authentic. 

Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s the strength that comes from being confident in who you are.

Focus on Connection, Not Achievement

Dates shouldn’t feel like a job interview. And what we mean by that is to let go of the pressure to "impress" or "achieve" anything specific. 

Instead, focus on creating a genuine connection with the person you are sitting with. 

Yes, there will be time to get to know the deal breakers but ask questions that let you both explore each other's interests and personalities. 

Prioritize shared experiences, like savoring a delicious meal or enjoying a cozy atmosphere together, over impressing someone with your accomplishments.

Have fun and be joyful

Men are drawn to women who are playful and joyful. Don’t be afraid to let your playful side show!

Smile, laugh, and enjoy the process of getting to know someone new. Your femininity is vibrant, joyful, and life-giving. When you radiate this, your presence can become irresistible.

Tiana Bay: How We Can Help You Reclaim Your Femininity Through The Power of Classy Feminine Fashion

Do you ever feel overlooked, like your femininity isn't being fully appreciated? 

One of the most powerful ways to reclaim your femininity is through the way you present yourself. Your style is an outward reflection of the softness, confidence, and elegance you carry within.

And while there are so many feminine energy courses teaching all about how to be a softer and more feminine you, what so many of these resources get wrong is how you present yourself has a significant impact on this transformation.

Often times, these sources will say that what you wear doesn’t matter, and it doesn’t matter how you look - when studies have found that not to be the case.

In fact, a recent study noted that 83% of American singles are more likely to form a good first impression of somebody they perceive as confident. And this study went on to find that dressing poorly was among the top reasons people form a bad first impression. 

The practical advice is that a lot of people will judge you on the merits of how you present yourself. And we also do it too - it’s survival and primitive and it’s part of being human. 

Do guys like it when girls dress feminine?

We often get this question a lot. And it really depends on the kind of man you are attracting.

When it comes to femininity, or dressing more feminine, you’ll likely attract an attractive, masculine man. 

Why?

Well, because as a feminine woman, when you invest in yourself by becoming a more feminine you (and we have blog posts about how to be more feminine, you can read them here) and when you show up dressed as that version of yourself, you send a message to the world about who you are and the standard you expect to be treated. 

And you attract people who have similar expectations. 

And of course, they objections often come - well, my friend/girlfriend/sister does not wear dresses all day and she gets hit on all the time -

Listen, that may be true, but an exception doesn’t negate the rule. Sure, there are women who it seems can wear a shopping bag and capture the attention of anyone - but that’s not the vast majority of people. 

What we know is true is when you show up as your best feminine self, both inside and out, that confidence is unparalleled. You start to feel good about yourself and you start to be attractive and magnetic. 

And another point we’d love to dispel, dressing feminine has nothing to do with dressing over the top or flashy or branded. Quite the opposite. When you step into the right outfit, you’re reclaiming your space as a woman who’s confident, radiant, and fully in tune with her femininity. 

For example, when it comes to first dates, it’s recommended to wear red. Why?

Well, studies show that women wearing red were rated significantly more attractive and sexually desirable by men than the exact same women shown with other colors. When wearing red, the woman was also more likely to be treated to a more expensive outing.

And at Tiana Bay, our approach starts out with the belief that by being born as a woman, you are inherently feminine. And so our goal is to find styles that help to enhance your naturally soft, feminine traits. 

We do this by 

• Hand-selecting styles made of the finest composition, weight, and texture, focusing on natural fibers like cotton, silk, cashmere, and leather when possible to ensure unmatched quality and comfort. 
• Each item is carefully inspected for expertly tailoring to enhance your feminine silhouette to ensure that each piece drapes beautifully, providing effortless movement and a perfect fit. 
• And partnering with independent designers and makers who focus on crafting every detail with care. 

 While other brands will focus on fleeting trends, collecting clothes an unhealthy amount of styles, our goal is to focus on building curated capsule collections made of high quality, timeless feminine pieces. 

So if you’re ready to look more feminine? Shop our classy date night collection today and discover how our handpicked pieces can help you unlock your feminine power.