How to Rest in Your Femininity As A Christian!

Reclaiming Femininity: Being a Feminine Women in a Masculine-Praising Society

As women, the message has been clear.

We are the “superwoman” generation.

We were told over and over that we were as good as boys. That we can do anything a boy can do, in fact, we were told that we can do anything a boy can do, better. 

Songs and movies boast of women's independence, resilience and pride in not having to have to depend on men. 

And while all these messages seemed encouraging, the subtext was that we prove our worth when we are compete and excel with men. 

What made us difference was no longer celebrated but dismissed. Women were praised when they were providers and protectors, dismissed as solely nurturers. Or worse, advise that she could do it all.

We were secretly being told that if we did not provide and protect of our lives - if we did not provide for ourselves - we were worthless, weak and dependent on men. 

After all, if we weren’t as good as boys, we just weren’t good enough.

And thereby creating a more masculine group of women. 

Women who struggle to embrace and reclaim their femininity, and resting in it. 

Reclaiming femininity doesn't mean ignoring the masculine expression that you possess. 

Rather, it means to recognize when we’re functioning in a capacity that is contrary to our natural expression, why we are in that state, and step back into our feminine state. 

Biological men are naturally masculine, and therefore, tend to be providers and protectors. Whereas, biological women are naturally feminine by design, and tend to be nurturers and caregivers. 

And thereby men and women are purposefully complimentary. However, when we build a society that believes that men and women are interchangeable, we lose the beauty of the complementary nature of this and we force each person to function in a capacity that is contrary to their natural expression.

All that being said, there are seasons in life when women will step into the providers/protector role, and men can step into the nurturer and caregiver role. But when they do so, it's likely because there is no alternative. They're in survival mode. 

We see this case in relationships when one spouse loses a job/gets sick/removed from the house for any reason, the other spouse will step into the dominant role, ie the masculine role.

So, when a women is operating more masculine role - she is protecting herself and likely in a survival mode. And she can function at that state for awhile.

But if she continues to function, she may find herself burdened, angry and resentful. 

Exhausted. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Desiring to rest and relinquish her control to someone who is worthy to handle that control but in that role, she attracts people around her who gravitate towards that kind of environment. Other women who are in survival mode, frustrated and defeated by life but incapable of seeing a way out.

And feminine men who have grown complacent with survival mode. 

So what to do?

Well, in order for us to embrace our femininity and the transformative power of it, we first need to accept ourselves fully as woman.

Resting in our Femininity Starts With The Need of a Savior

Embracing your femininity starts by first realizing that who we are - flaws and all - and accepting that..

This is harder said than done, because we’ve all had moments in our lives when we were told that we weren’t good enough. We may have experienced neglect or abuse that damaged our psyche, pushed us in positions to constantly protect ourselves and therefore pushed us to be more masculine. 

And a huge part of being feminine is the ability to be soft and vulnerable.

But it doesn't stop there, it's also taking things one step further and dealing with our brokenness, traumas, hurts, and missed expectations. 

And rather than read affirmations, there’s a spiritual truth we need to grasp.

That there is something inherently wrong with us. We were created for a loving relationship with God, and our sin nature has kept us from so.

And that sin nature is that persistently stubborn stain we’ve been desperately trying to blot out. 

Rather than fix it ourselves, we need to look to God.

Friends, it is this love that we use as the basis for our self-acceptance. The love demonstrated by Christ when He died for our sins. Our brokenness, hurt and trauma. 

And once we accept His love, we move differently.  

This self-acceptance helps you drop societal pressures and embrace your femininity. It helps you overcome limiting beliefs and insecurities.

"Only when you fully grasp that you were made on purpose for a purpose by a loving God, can you fully embrace your feminine identity."

And as you accept this truth, your relationships, career, and well-being will improve. 

The true power of self-acceptance is about loving what Jesus has done for you and choosing to praise Him because of His love and sacrifice and embracing the spiritual healing that comes from Him. 

One of the biggest critiques we hear from women in our community is that when it comes to being feminine, we just do not feeling safe to do so. We do not feel safe trusting men solely to protect and provide for us. 

And this is completely understandably. In Genesis, when God created man and women, masculine and feminine beings, that was before sin entered. When everything was perfect. 

It's no longer the case. So as Christian women, embracing our femininity, we need to first turn to Christ. We need to give him our hurts and pains and worries and cares, knowing that He loves us and cares for us

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peters 5:7

And the beauty about this is that rather than transferring this expectation to a man, we place it in God’s hands. And when we do this, we create a different atmosphere. We’re not bogged down with the cares, worries and frustrations of this world.

We’re reminded that we are loved and in His hands. We’re reminded that we are cared for and protected, and whatever happens, God is still in control.

We’re able to be soft because we transferred the burden of being the protector and provider back to God. 

And as we walk with God, we learn to trust Him more and more because He is faithful and just.

We don’t have to be the ones to do everything, we learn to rest.

Femininity and Vulnerability

Society often portrays vulnerability as a weakness, something to be avoided. However, it is through vulnerability that we truly connect with others and experience deep, meaningful connections.

Femininity encourages us to embrace vulnerability and allows us to tap into our emotional depths. It is through vulnerability that we discover ourselves and find the courage to express our true emotions and desires. As well as foster an environment in which others can do the same.

And this is scary, and so often we find ourselves stepping into our masculinity to protect ourselves from being vulnerable and soft. 

We’d rather take control, portray strength and toughness because we’re afraid to feel pain or experience it again. But we need to remember that vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s a requirement of life.

And by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we open up the doors to growth and personal development. 

We learn to trust ourselves and others, and find strength in our ability to navigate through life's challenges with grace and resilience.

And we learn to cultivate empathy, forge deeper connections, and live a more fulfilling life.

So dare to embrace your femininity and vulnerability, and experience the transformative power it brings.

Application: How to Create the Feminine Lifestyle

We’ve already talked about how important it is for a woman to be feminine, so let’s talk about how one is to do so. 

Here are some daily activities that will help you become more feminine.

• Start your day spending time in God’s word, meditating on the bible and basking in His love and presence. Put on your armor of love, reminding yourself that you were created on purpose for a purpose
• Practice a form of self-care (enjoying a healthy breakfast, going for a walk, exercising in the morning)
• Spend time pampering yourself / dress up 
• During your workday, take time to 
• Journaling to explore your emotions and process them - not to judge how you’re feeling but to become aware of what your emotions are saying
• Meditation to calm the mind and remember what the scriptures you head in the afternoon
• Spend time with your loved ones 
• Sensual self-care, such as indulging in a luxurious bath to exercising your body, eating a healthy diet
• Prioritizes peace, patience and positivity by setting firm  boundaries and enforcing them
• Guard your heart by protecting what type of content you consume.
• Seeks Godly guidance and wisdom 
• Enjoy the little moments of life
• Creativity through art, music, or dance to unleash your feminine creativity

These self-care practices will help you find balance as you tap into your femininity.