3 Simple Steps to Being More Feminine: How to Be the Woman You Want to Be

Dating is hard, and while there are many variables to a successful date, we have 3 tips  to have a successful first date for the feminine woman  Prepare and plan ahead of your first date First, decide on a place to go that fits both of your interests. Choose a location and activity that both you and your date will enjoy. This It could be a restaurant, a coffee shop, Lounge, art museum, book store, or anything else that allows you to spend time together in a comfortable and relaxed setting. remember, this is about figuring out who our date is and not what he can afford. Dress Classy & Feminine First impressions matter. Studies demonstrate that when you dress well, you feel good and confident about yourself. And confidence can go a long way when it comes to dating, as 83 percent of Americans say they’re more likely to form a good first impression of somebody they perceive as confident. on the flip side, Dressing poorly is found to be the top reasons people will form a bad first impression of somebody. And ladies, dressing more femininely means finding patterns and colors that accentuates your beautiful body. Opt for dresses and styles that highlights your figure but not reveal everything. After all, you're goal is to end up married. Along with the clothes, opt for soft tone, delicate jewelries and a natural makeup look Be Present, Engaged & Have Fun Listen actively to your date and show genuine interest in what they have to say. Ask questions, lots of questions, and share your experiences. One way you can prepare for this is by having a list of conversation starters prepared so you have something to talk about. listen genuinely to what they have to say and let your feminine traits shine by being gracious, respectful and kind in what you say and how you share your views and ideas. first dates can be scary but fun. Remember that the purpose of the first date is to get to know each other better and have a good time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or your date, and enjoy the experience!

Being in your 30s, you are blessed to live long enough to start seeing patterns play out. Like this pick-me phenomenon all over social media. And truth be told, it’s just a load of garbage But before we begin, let’s get an accurate definition so we're all on the same page - According to Urban Dictionary,  A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me. Pick me: If a man cheats on you, it's probably because you your fault. Be feminine! Make him food!... In high school, I remember a bunch of girls who fit this definition. In fact, I remember one girl in particular, let’s call her Roberta. She wasn’t feminine in her appearance but she knew how to talk and flirt with the boys. All the boys wanted to be around her, and most of the girls hated her. I mean, she could steal anyone’s boyfriend… (but to be fair, it was high school so 9.98/10 relationships weren’t that serious to begin with but you get what I mean 😭) At that time, my high school best friend was obsessed with a boy.  And unfortunately, Roberta also had her eyes on this boy, and it wasn't long before the two would be the next it couple. And this bothered my friend so much. All through sophomore year, she must have  called Roberta every word in the book. If she knew pickme, she would have called Roberta one.  Let's take a look at the definition again. This definition is so egregious, and yet so popular because it really highlights the disgust that women have for this person. Just like my high school best friend, who hated Roberta for doing that to her.  But if you take a closer look at the defintion you'll see something else. A pickme is a woman who is  willing to do anything for a male's approval.  So post a suggestive instagram posts or reels, tiktok dance trends with little clothes, tight clothes, no makeup, glam makeup, lace front, natural hair, weaves, french braid, highlights, short hair, long hair, soft girl aesthetics , mob wife, low body count, or high body count are generally pickme … or anything a woman does that can be interpreter as doing it for men’s attention is a pickme. And that’s my point, pickme is just another derogatory terms women use about other women because she is getting the attention of the men the women probably wanted. I mean, most of the people using this term are women, describing other women.  And this word can be weaponizing when it comes to dating. For example, I heard a story about a woman who arrived early to a restaurant and had suggested that she placed an order for apps while waiting for her date. He was running late but he planned on being there… So she did. And he showed up, and the date went well… And all the women in her comments all called her a pickme, because she was trying too hard to get his attention. I’m sorry, what?!?! When you’re single and meet a good man - you should stand out and it’s absolutely fine to want his approval.  Yes, that’s ok. So while I’ll say you should never be desperate for any man’s attention - like have standards softies.Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made - so don’t treat yourself as a byproduct but an actual prize. And when you do meet that man that fit your standards, Softies - you should put every effort in to make that relationship work.  Like I said, if he is a good man, has a good job or a provider and a man after God’s own heart, make a good impression and reinforce that impression.  Show him that you are wifey and not just a girlfriend When I was dating my husband, from the start I made sure my first impression was wifey, and I did not hesitate to demonstrate that - irregardless if I would have been called pickme. (and no, this did not involve sex or moving in with him or splitting checks - nope that’s not wifey title) We focused on building intimacy.  So, while I understand the concept of pickme, at the end of the day, focus on you and not what other women say - especially if they’re single…

Power of Femininity when it Comes to Dating  When it comes to dating, being a more feminine woman is not just about personal growth. Or unlock your 'feminine energy' through activities and hobbies. It is also about how you present yourself to the world. Let's face it: we all know women who are nurturing and kind, yet you wouldn't know they were feminine. Why? Because looks matter. So, softies, it's time to embrace your femininity with confidence. Especially on those enchanting date nights. The Art of Being Fiercely Feminine Woman  I heard a story about a young maiden in the 1800s. She and her traveling companion were walking by a group of young gentlemen. When she dropped her handkerchief. Thankfully, one young man noticed the young maiden drop the handkerchief. He it picked it up, and ran after her. And when he finally caught up to her and her traveling companion, he smiled. And it was love at first sight. After the loving couple wedded, friends wanted to know how they met. The husband shared the harrowing story of him returning the handkerchief back to her. Meanwhile, the wife shared a different story with her friends, privately. She shared how she saw him weeks prior. And observed him. And when the time was right, dressed up in her best she dropped her handkerchief. And the rest is history. I love this story it shows how a feminine woman can guide the relationship. Being a feminine woman in the dating world can feel like a balancing act. But there are 3 good points we can take from this story that can make a big difference in your dating life. Know your worth. I cannot overemphasize this enough. Learn and love about yourself. What do you want or don't want, especially when it comes to relationships. Visualize the kind of class woman you want to be and move toward her. And remember, no person can complete you. And for my Christian softies, this is especially true. Remember that e are complete in Jesus. Once sinners, but accepting that Jesus died for our sins and in him we are redeemed. Settle for Only What You're Worth, and Nothing Less. Just like in the case of the story for the young maiden, when she sees the man she wants - she goes after it. Now, this is not the same as making the first move. Hear me clearly, men are the pursuers. They're wired that way. That being said, you can place yourself in position to be pursed. And this could look like grabbing dinner at one of the hotels downtown in financial district. Alone. Or choosing to attend a work related conference, networking event, or a church event. Think about the men you want to meet, where do they frequent and go there. With a friend or alone. Being strategic with your effort. Dress Your Worth. In the world of dating and relationships, first impressions are crucial. They set the tone for what's to come. So Dress Your Worth. And no, this isn't adorned in brand name. That may set the wrong impression, but rather dress appropriately yet distinctively. When it comes to dressing your worth, your clothes should has three goals. Give You Confident Set the Expectation Help You Stand Apart. For example, if you're going to grab coffee downtown, a classy tweed dress or blazer romper is perfect. Rather than the blouse and jeans that everyone else is wearing. Or let's say you're going out for dinner. Rather than wear the little black dress, choose a red dress for a bold dinner look. Remember, the goal is to get you noticed, and your personality and charm will do the rest. That's why our Classy Date Night Collection is has been our top selling collection. Our collection is more than just cute clothes. It's your silent introduction, boasting about your standards and your dreams. We hand-selected each piece in our collection to bring out your femininity. Making you not seen but remembered. And that's why other women like you are raving about our collection. As you navigate the dating scene, let our Classy Date Night Collection be part of your armor. Helping you become the woman who attracts the love and respect she deserves.