Up until college, I wouldn't call myself feminine. I wasn't living a feminine lifestyle, I had little to no effort into my looks, and believed that I was equal to a man in every way. I also wasn’t dating anyone which bothered me. I remember being part of small bible study on campus, and having young men attend, we’d have good chemistry during the bible study but nothing ever happened. I reminded myself that my partner will love me for me so I didn’t need to worry. Thankfully, I learned from that mistake fast.
After college, I decided to dive deeper into my Christianity and femininity. I changed my lifestyle, lost weight, and focused more on seeking God, developing inner peace and being softer. What I’ve come to learn is that by growing in my femininity, I began to focus on developing traits that enhanced my womanhood, allowing me to stand apart from other women. And went from being pursued by no one to being pursued by multiple men. At the same time. CRAZY
So I share this story with you to encourage you. Not every woman wants to be feminine, and if that's not you, thank you for reading. But for those who do want to be more feminine, it can change your life.
Here are 3 Simple Steps!
Be Gracious: A gracious woman is someone who has a kind heart and shows compassion towards others. You don’t have to be besties with everyone, but try to be cordial and respectful. A gracious woman is also humble. She knows her worth and doesn’t boast or brag about herself. Rather, she is secure in herself that she is able to be gracious to others. Be loving, be patient, kind, and takes the time to listen.
Pamper Yourself. This is so important. Being feminine is also about taking time to pamper yourself. I'm using that word on purpose because I want you to think of yourself as a luxury not a commodity. You deserve to pamper yourself, rest and recharge. Get a massage, do your nails, put effort into your appearance. In fact, I'd challenge you to start by not wear anything black, gray, or navy blue for 1 week. Opt for colors that enhances your tone and figure. And when in doubt, beige is a nice neutral. Invest in your mind through books, podcasts and even learning a new skill. Invest in your spiritual journey. Most importantly, learn to love yourself and develop that inner confidence. Note, this does mean that you will need to purge negative mindset and toxic values, beliefs, and systems at all cost.
Soften up. When you think of the word feminine, what comes to mind? “Soft” is often used to describe femininity. And being soft doesn’t mean you’re weak. In fact, it takes a strong woman to be soft. It’s about being tender-hearted, compassionate, and empathetic. These three things are a great foundation for becoming more feminine. As you focus on these areas, you’ll begin to see other areas of your life change as well. Your relationships will blossom, you’ll be more in tune with your intuition, and you’ll find yourself being more graceful. So those are three simple steps to becoming more feminine: Be gracious, beautify and pamper yourself, and soften up. As you focus on these areas, you'll begin to see other areas of your life change as well. Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Do you have any tips on how to be more feminine? Share them with us in the comments below! And if you enjoyed this post, please share it with your friends! Until next time, lovely ladies!
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Why Femininity Matters More Than Ever
A comment on one of my videos stopped me in my tracks recently.
I posted a video showcasing one of our styles, and the comment asked, Why the focus on femininity? Why the emphasis on it?
I had to sit with that for a while.
Because I understood the skepticism.
There's a version of the femininity conversation that feels performative.
The aesthetic. The expensive taste. The fixation on men and a lifestyle.
And then adding a layer of dark spirituality - feminine energy, how to awaken it, manifestation.
And if you're a Christian, what seemed good and light has a complicated perspective.
So I understand why someone would raise an eyebrow.
But when I responded to that comment, I shared the real reason we're obsessed with femininity. And it starts with my own story.
Growing up, I was insecure about my womanhood. I believed my worth was tied to what I produced — what I achieved, what I could show for myself. It was only after becoming a Christian, after God began to reveal that my femininity was never the problem, that I started to see clearly. The world's contortion of femininity and masculinity — that didn't catch God off guard. None of it surprised him.
But what I really wanted to drive home is this:
femininity matters now more than ever. And here's why.
For the sake of this conversation, let me define what I mean by femininity. I'm talking about the attributes, talents, and skills particular to womanhood — the things a woman possesses that are distinct, that are hers.
This matters because it reveals God's intentionality from the very beginning.
Genesis 1:27 tells us God created Adam and Eve in his likeness. The qualities we sometimes struggle with as women — the ones that make us feel inadequate, vulnerable, too soft — were not accidents. They were designed. Purposefully, by our Father. Not to make us a liability. To make us necessary.
When we look further into Genesis, we see that Adam was formed from dust and called to work the land. God looked at him and said: It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper for him.
He didn't create another man.
When God created Eve, he formed her from Adam's rib and brought her to him.
That imagery gives hint to the importance of womanhood.
The bible uses the word, helper, which does not mean a subservant.
Rather it carries the meaning of having strength, having skill, possessing something complementary that the other person does not have.
But here's what took my breath away.
That same word, helper, is used elsewhere in Scripture to describe God's relationship with Israel.
And used in the New Testament to describe the Holy Spirit.
Let that land for a second.
A woman is not helpless or defenseless, but she was created on purpose with gifts and talents unique to her - orchestrated by the Lord
That's not a small thing. That's everything.
When I embraced my womanhood, Scripture opened up to me in ways it hadn't before.
I started seeing Jesus differently — more richly, more personally.
The story that always gets me is the woman at the well. John 4.
I've heard it preached a hundred different ways. She's called immoral, obstinate, a cautionary tale. But when you read it as a woman, you see something else entirely.
She comes at high noon — seeking isolation.
She knew no one would be at the well.
She wasn't being practical. She was trying to hide, because that's all she knew. How to be invisible
And Jesus, the bible tells us, came to the well to meet her.
He asks her for water.
And by doing so, he offers a water much greater than anything she could experience.
WHat's so beautiful is that Jesus sees this woman fully...
I think it's the same way Jesus saw Nathaniel and said, I saw you under the fig tree.
It was a moment of being truly known, and fully loved.
And in that moment, that woman felt something. She goes from being invisible to telling the city about the man who sees her.
And the bible tells us that the whole city comes to Jesus because of her testimony.
That's what happens when a woman knows she is loved.
This Is Why We Do What We Do
Femininity matters to us because you matter. Not as a concept. Not as an aesthetic. As a woman, made on purpose, for this moment.
Our brand exists to remind you of that. If you're struggling with your womanhood — if some part of you resents being a woman, feels lesser for it, wishes you were built differently — I want you to hear this: God loved you enough to make you exactly this way. You bear his image. Whether you're soft or strong, whether you fit the mold or don't, you are loved by Jesus.
That's the whole thing. That's why femininity matters.
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