When It comes to dressing feminine and classy, the most commonly held belief or belief system around this topic - is that it’s all about dressing “girly” or “wearing high heels” all day and being uncomfortable.
And while I understand where this ideology comes from - it’s certainly not true.
Feminine fashion, or the act of dressing more femininely involves highlighting the beautiful curves in a female body.
And based on your body type, that may involve a beautiful ruffle dress with a cinched waist if you happen to have a rectangle body type. But not always.
So, while high heels make a woman look more feminine by causing the hips to sway more while enhancing her posture and elongating her legs - not everyone can wear heels.
How do I look more feminine?
Well, the easiest way to help you dress more feminine and look more classy is by building a feminine style capsule wardrobe.
Our goal is focusing on good quality feminine styles that work together to create a capsule wardrobe. We focus on quality, not quantity—and every piece in our collections is carefully selected for its craftsmanship and durability. Fast fashion churns out items quickly and cheaply, leading to clothes that often fall apart after a few washes while our styles are handpicked to last.
It’s made for real life. A capsule collection ensures that every piece in your wardrobe works together. And our stylists and team designed our collections to give you that transition seamlessly from day to night, work to weekend, casual to classy. You’ll be investing in feminine clothing that makes your life easier while keeping you looking classy and cute. Fast fashion can’t compete with our commitment to giving you adaptable pieces that reflect your true style every day.
No More “Nothing to Wear” Dilemmas. Have you ever stared at a closet full of clothes and still felt like you had nothing to wear? Girl, it’s the vain of our existence and one of the reasons why we wanted to go the capsule collection route. Our capsule collections eliminate that frustration. Instead of filling your wardrobe with trendy pieces that quickly go out of style, we provide you with key staples that are endlessly chic and always in style.
Our brand was born out of a desire to celebrate femininity, especially for black and brown women who deserve to feel soft, delicate, and beautiful. We don’t just sell clothes; we offer you a chance to embrace your femininity through high-quality, classy, and playful styles that uplift you, make you feel desirable, and empower you to express your true self.
We are a slower fashion, Christian clothing brand that makes and sells feminine dresses for woman looking to reclaim their God-given femininity.
We believe that being born a woman, you are inherently feminine. Life may tell you otherwise, but sometimes all we need is a reminder. And that reminder is as easy as seeing yourself as the woman you are.
Our dresses are exclusively available through preorder, often times making less than demand. So that we can focus on what really matters: making you look more feminine and feel pretty
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Reclaiming Femininity: Being a Feminine Women in a Masculine-Praising Society
As women, the message has been clear.
We are the “superwoman” generation.
We were told over and over that we were as good as boys. That we can do anything a boy can do, in fact, we were told that we can do anything a boy can do, better.
Songs and movies boast of women's independence, resilience and pride in not having to have to depend on men.
And while all these messages seemed encouraging, the subtext was that we prove our worth when we are compete and excel with men.
What made us difference was no longer celebrated but dismissed. Women were praised when they were providers and protectors, dismissed as solely nurturers. Or worse, advise that she could do it all.
We were secretly being told that if we did not provide and protect of our lives - if we did not provide for ourselves - we were worthless, weak and dependent on men.
After all, if we weren’t as good as boys, we just weren’t good enough.
And thereby creating a more masculine group of women.
Women who struggle to embrace and reclaim their femininity, and resting in it.
Reclaiming femininity doesn't mean ignoring the masculine expression that you possess.
Rather, it means to recognize when we’re functioning in a capacity that is contrary to our natural expression, why we are in that state, and step back into our feminine state.
Biological men are naturally masculine, and therefore, tend to be providers and protectors. Whereas, biological women are naturally feminine by design, and tend to be nurturers and caregivers.
And thereby men and women are purposefully complimentary. However, when we build a society that believes that men and women are interchangeable, we lose the beauty of the complementary nature of this and we force each person to function in a capacity that is contrary to their natural expression.
All that being said, there are seasons in life when women will step into the providers/protector role, and men can step into the nurturer and caregiver role. But when they do so, it's likely because there is no alternative. They're in survival mode.
We see this case in relationships when one spouse loses a job/gets sick/removed from the house for any reason, the other spouse will step into the dominant role, ie the masculine role.
So, when a women is operating more masculine role - she is protecting herself and likely in a survival mode. And she can function at that state for awhile.
But if she continues to function, she may find herself burdened, angry and resentful.
Exhausted. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Desiring to rest and relinquish her control to someone who is worthy to handle that control but in that role, she attracts people around her who gravitate towards that kind of environment. Other women who are in survival mode, frustrated and defeated by life but incapable of seeing a way out.
And feminine men who have grown complacent with survival mode.
So what to do?
Well, in order for us to embrace our femininity and the transformative power of it, we first need to accept ourselves fully as woman.
Resting in our Femininity Starts With The Need of a Savior
Embracing your femininity starts by first realizing that who we are - flaws and all - and accepting that..
This is harder said than done, because we’ve all had moments in our lives when we were told that we weren’t good enough. We may have experienced neglect or abuse that damaged our psyche, pushed us in positions to constantly protect ourselves and therefore pushed us to be more masculine.
And a huge part of being feminine is the ability to be soft and vulnerable.
But it doesn't stop there, it's also taking things one step further and dealing with our brokenness, traumas, hurts, and missed expectations.
And rather than read affirmations, there’s a spiritual truth we need to grasp.
That there is something inherently wrong with us. We were created for a loving relationship with God, and our sin nature has kept us from so.
And that sin nature is that persistently stubborn stain we’ve been desperately trying to blot out.
Rather than fix it ourselves, we need to look to God.
"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life” John 3:16
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.” 1 John 3:16
Friends, it is this love that we use as the basis for our self-acceptance. The love demonstrated by Christ when He died for our sins. Our brokenness, hurt and trauma.
And once we accept His love, we move differently.
This self-acceptance helps you drop societal pressures and embrace your femininity. It helps you overcome limiting beliefs and insecurities.
"Only when you fully grasp that you were made on purpose for a purpose by a loving God, can you fully embrace your feminine identity."
And as you accept this truth, your relationships, career, and well-being will improve.
The true power of self-acceptance is about loving what Jesus has done for you and choosing to praise Him because of His love and sacrifice and embracing the spiritual healing that comes from Him.
One of the biggest critiques we hear from women in our community is that when it comes to being feminine, we just do not feeling safe to do so. We do not feel safe trusting men solely to protect and provide for us.
And this is completely understandably. In Genesis, when God created man and women, masculine and feminine beings, that was before sin entered. When everything was perfect.
It's no longer the case. So as Christian women, embracing our femininity, we need to first turn to Christ. We need to give him our hurts and pains and worries and cares, knowing that He loves us and cares for us
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peters 5:7
And the beauty about this is that rather than transferring this expectation to a man, we place it in God’s hands. And when we do this, we create a different atmosphere. We’re not bogged down with the cares, worries and frustrations of this world.
We’re reminded that we are loved and in His hands. We’re reminded that we are cared for and protected, and whatever happens, God is still in control.
We’re able to be soft because we transferred the burden of being the protector and provider back to God.
And as we walk with God, we learn to trust Him more and more because He is faithful and just.
We don’t have to be the ones to do everything, we learn to rest.
Femininity and Vulnerability
Society often portrays vulnerability as a weakness, something to be avoided. However, it is through vulnerability that we truly connect with others and experience deep, meaningful connections.
Femininity encourages us to embrace vulnerability and allows us to tap into our emotional depths. It is through vulnerability that we discover ourselves and find the courage to express our true emotions and desires. As well as foster an environment in which others can do the same.
And this is scary, and so often we find ourselves stepping into our masculinity to protect ourselves from being vulnerable and soft.
We’d rather take control, portray strength and toughness because we’re afraid to feel pain or experience it again. But we need to remember that vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s a requirement of life.
And by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we open up the doors to growth and personal development.
We learn to trust ourselves and others, and find strength in our ability to navigate through life's challenges with grace and resilience.
And we learn to cultivate empathy, forge deeper connections, and live a more fulfilling life.
So dare to embrace your femininity and vulnerability, and experience the transformative power it brings.
Application: How to Create the Feminine Lifestyle
We’ve already talked about how important it is for a woman to be feminine, so let’s talk about how one is to do so.
Here are some daily activities that will help you become more feminine.
Start your day spending time in God’s word, meditating on the bible and basking in His love and presence. Put on your armor of love, reminding yourself that you were created on purpose for a purpose
Practice a form of self-care (enjoying a healthy breakfast, going for a walk, exercising in the morning)
Spend time pampering yourself / dress up
During your workday, take time to
Journaling to explore your emotions and process them - not to judge how you’re feeling but to become aware of what your emotions are saying
Meditation to calm the mind and remember what the scriptures you head in the afternoon
Spend time with your loved ones
Sensual self-care, such as indulging in a luxurious bath to exercising your body, eating a healthy diet
Prioritizes peace, patience and positivity by setting firm boundaries and enforcing them
Guard your heart by protecting what type of content you consume.
Seeks Godly guidance and wisdom
Enjoy the little moments of life
Creativity through art, music, or dance to unleash your feminine creativity
These self-care practices will help you find balance as you tap into your femininity.